Testimonials For Support Groups
From a position of relative neutrality, I became aware that the program was having a much more profound influence on me than I anticipated. I was participating fully in order to allow my friend the opportunity to run her pilot program but by the 3rd week I was having a lot of resonance with the materials personally. I was actively reframing my life losses and coping mechanisms and considering aspects of grief and loss through a different lens, one where I held some responsibility and where I wasn't demonizing my dead. I felt I really truly completed an emotional journey that was begun when I was a kid. Since the end of the session, I have felt lighter and more whole, more confident. I'm really grateful that I was asked to do this course.
Support Groups12/17/2021
I volunteered for the pilot group at the request of the facilitator. I had no prior idea as to the nature of the program. In fact, I really didn't think I was grieving. Throughout the course of 8 weeks, as a direct result of the process, I realized that there were several unfinished relationships that I was still carrying, some for decades. I was, by definition, grieving. Although, there were several specific past relationships in my grief history graph that I could have chosen to carry on to the relationship graph, it was the most recent of them, the death of my father, that I decided to dive into. It was while exploring this that I had a major breakthrough. I had been VERY angry with his life choices after my mother died. The anger carried through the entire time he was remarried and remained even after he died. The relationship graph guided me to a point where I realized what was really behind his choices and my reaction to them. It was a very emotional experience, but it was the beginning of a shift from anger to grief. The good-bye letter solidified the transition. I was able to apologize for that which deserved such. I forgave my father for that which deserved such. I was able to acknowledge that which I should have or could not have done while he was alive. Most importantly, I no longer carry anger fed grief. I said good-bye.
Support Groups12/17/2021
I like that it's called a METHOD, rather than the answer. I'm not a huge fan of self help books/programs. But this was really terrific. I'm recommending it to other skeptics. I'm still not a fan of the one-on-one. If I want to share one on one, I want a professional not a stranger. The group stuff felt different and allowed me to empathize and feel less alone about it all -- more open. It really normalized and made community out of grief sharing. I watched others open up that way in ways I didn't expect. I was surprised by the changes that I felt even before the letter.
Support Groups12/17/2021
Thank you for giving me a template on how to process grief/loss and my accompanying thoughts moving forward.
Support Groups12/17/2021
The program helped me understand why my best friend's death affected me so much. I was able to get down to the root of my grief and acknowledge it. This program has helped me tremendously.
Support Groups12/16/2021
This step has helped me be a better listener and how I used some of the myth phrases.
Support Groups12/16/2021
I was able to work though my grief and release what was needed that connected to the emotional traumas behind it. This program gave me the tools to know how to do the work in my ongoing healing process, so that I may continue to grow into the person I know I need be for myself and others. Thank you.
Support Groups12/15/2021
Support Groups12/14/2021
It has helped me work with my health issues, and be more patient with myself and others
Support Groups12/13/2021
I am a recovering addict/alcoholic and this method strongly parallels methods used in recovery yet is somewhat different and more in depth. I felt this method was very helpful in going beyond what i typically found in recovery methods.
Support Groups12/12/2021
This was a very emotional course for me and many times I thought to myself “why am I doing this to myself”. I strongly urge anyone that has the ability to fight through the intense emotions to do so and complete this course. Although it wasn’t easy for me I am very glad I stayed until the end.
Support Groups12/12/2021
When the 1st couple of classes I started to feel and think differently. Which helps me to deal with my situation in a more positive way.
Support Groups12/12/2021
Support Groups12/10/2021Participant in Fairfield, OH
I had a traumatic childhood and multiple successive traumatic life experiences when I came of age. I've been in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for 14 years, and have spent much of that time analyzing my past relationships with less-than-loved ones to understand why certain things were said or done. Most of my therapy has been in learning how to not abandon myself - to stick up for myself and hold reasonable boundaries. But none of my sessions or years in therapy has proposed the idea of coming to emotional completeness - of delivering the communication that could not be said or would not be heard. Susan guided us through identifying our STERBS, charting our loss graph, mapping out the relationships we felt we most needed to complete. I was surprised to find that it was not my late husband that I needed closure with, but my father, who is still living. Realizing the extent to which my grief over our relationship affects me in my day-to-day relationships was a revelation. Writing the Goodbye Letter was painful, but again, Susan was there as a faithful and supportive guide. She made no illusions of being superior to us or to having it all figured out, but rather she existed with us in the trenches of despair - she in hers, we in ours, all in each others'. We found community there at the bottom of that well of grief, and that sharing was incredibly healing. My pain doesn't feel so special, so secret, so guarded any more. And that's an incredible thing. I'm so grateful to Susan, and to the GRM for this guide on the path of grief. I can't recommend it enough...
Support Groups12/10/2021
Excellent program. It is a life-changing program.
Support Groups12/09/2021
Моя история связана с разводом. На протяжении прохождения программы я научился справляться со своими чувствами, переживаниями.
Support Groups12/09/2021Participant in Kyiv,
Прорабатывал отношения с мамой. Нашел пункты, которые мучили меня и не давали жить полноценной жизнью. Самое невероятное было, когда я пришел на одну из встреч с полной уверенностью, что я поломан, услышав обратное не мог согласиться, а утром проснулся, ощущая, что я никакой не поломанный. Я смог сказать прощай всему, что было. И получил рабочую схему с помощью которой могу разобрать другие болючие моменты в моей жизни. Спасибо большое!
Support Groups12/09/2021Participant in Kyiv,
Моя история связана с разводом. На протяжении прохождения программы я научился справляться со своими чувствами, переживаниями.
Support Groups12/09/2021Participant in Kyiv,
Support Groups12/07/2021
In the beginning , reading the book and doing the homework felt a bit vague, however sticking with it proved to be awesome. Doing the graphs , one was great the next harder, but doing the work helped very much. I am so glad I did this !!!
Support Groups12/04/2021
Support Groups12/02/2021
Support Groups12/01/2021
Impressions of participating in Grief Recovery Workshop
47 years old, female, A.O.At first, I wasn't sure what to do, but as I chose a relationship and focused on that person, I could understand both the other person and myself well.
I chose a relationship with a still-living mother who has affected me as the closest person.
The work of writing out the events with my mother, sorting them into three categories, writing letters, etc., and the work of actually talking about it aloud are completely different in emotions. I got a lot of emotions when I spoke out.
There was an instruction to keep it as it is even if it gets bogged down when talking, but that was difficult.
I was talking while trying to express my sadness without stopping.
As I worked, I could feel not only my sadness but also my mother's sadness.
I had enshrined my mother, but I could feel that she was also an ordinary person and had various emotions.
By doing this recovery work, it seems that I will be able to treat my mother without expecting too much.I want to do this Grief Recovery work about the second person in the form of continuing education.
At the first one I was working on it without knowing it well, and I haven't organized it well yet, so I thought that if I did about two people, I would be able to do other people by myself.Until now, I have been thinking it's correct to pretend that I don't care a lot and to pass on my emotions.
We read the commitments every time. And I think that is effective because unfamiliar behaviors can be fixed by reading them repeatedly.Support Groups12/01/2021
Impressions of participating in Grief Recovery Workshop
53 years old, female, C.U.As I practiced the work one by one, I was able to remember the events that I had completely forgotten.
It was three months that I had an experience that mysteriously revived various memories.
It was great to realize how much pain due to loss I had.
It also made me realize that what I thought was insignificant was the cause of various pains.
Through some work, I was able to realize that the pain was gradually diminishing and then disappearing within me.Support Groups12/01/2021