October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, so we are going to do our part to honor families that have lost a child during pregnancy or infancy. 

It’s also important to raise awareness that losing a baby, at any time, for any reason, is a grieving experience and that heartbroken parents do not have to live in pain forever.

If you‘ve been through the heartache of losing a baby we are so, so sorry. We can’t begin to imagine what that must feel like for you. 

You’ve probably heard it a million times, “You never get over the loss of a child”. We know why people say it, but is it true? 

The Grief Recovery Method is a set of tools that have been proven to heal any broken heart. If you’ve had a child die you might think that sounds impossible, but please keep reading.

Recovery doesn’t mean you will forget your baby, that you won’t feel heartbroken from time-to-time, or that you will be happy each and every moment. It simply means that you will get complete with the unmet hopes, dreams, and expectations you had for your baby and your life together. It means that you’ll be able to have fond memories of your child without them turning painful. It means that you will be capable of happiness again. 

How come you haven’t heard this before?

The problem is that grief is emotional, but most people are taught to deal with it intellectually. That’s why well-meaning friends and family might say unhelpful, even hurtful things to you such as,

• Don't feel bad. At least you can have other children.
• Look on the bright side, she wasn’t even born yet. That would have been really painful.
• Be grateful for the time you had together.

If you’ve been on the receiving end of any of those statements then you know how confusing and painful it can be. You know that the suggestions to “not feel bad”, “look on the bright side” or to “be grateful” are virtually impossible.

But you try.

You try to do what people suggest. When it doesn’t work you might wonder what’s wrong with you. So you isolate yourself or pretend that you’re okay. You might think your pain will last forever. 

Please know that your feelings are normal and natural, even if your baby didn’t come to term. Your relationship with your baby started the moment you found out you were pregnant. From that very first moment you probably thought about what it would like to love that baby. Did you imagine what it would be like to hold her for the first time? Or did you have fear about how you’d pay the bills? Maybe you started picking out baby names. 

When your child dies that leaves you not only with a broken heart but with those unmet hopes, dreams, and expectations. Those undelivered communications are unresolved grief and what keeps grievers stuck in their pain.

Is there another way to live? Yes, there is. The Grief Recovery Method has helped hundreds of thousands of people get complete with the loss of their unborn or new child and to go on to live productive happy lives. 

Imagine how it would feel thinking about your baby without feeling pain every time. 

Is it scary to take the leap? Yes, it can be. But we promise that being emotionally complete is worth it.

Want to know more?

Our 2 ½ Day Personal Seminar will get on the road to recovery. You will be given the tools that you need to process all of your grief-related emotions with the goal being to regain a sense of hope and purpose in life. Learn More

Click here if you’re looking for a support group or one-on-one sessions led by Certified Grief Recovery Specialists. 

Not ready to take the leap? That’s okay. Consider diving into some blogs or grabbing a copy of The Grief Recovery Handbook. 

We will be here waiting with open arms whenever you’re ready.

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