HI there BEAUTIFUL HUMAN, my name is Val. I have the great privilege to live and work in the beautiful mountainous little city of Fernie BC. I am so honored to be able to work in the human support field for 30+ years. I love to help guide and empower people to work through the many challenges life throws at us. Learning and growing together is truly gratifying work.
Through my many, many years on this earth I have personally experienced several losses and much grief at many different levels from moving, suicide, mental illness, death, divorce, pets, trust, innocence ....all of which I have carried with me from my early childhood years through to adulthood. My father was a minister so our family moved often, interesting but not the funnest thing to experience every few years. You never really feel settled and you are always the newbie!
As our parents before us, and theirs before them and so on, we were raised to not cry, not talk about feelings, never show emotion, to put others before ourselves, not to speak unless spoken to and to absolutely NEVER discuss anything that has to do with SEX or DEATH. So where do we put all that loss and grief? We pack it down, don't speak of it, suck it up, bury it deep inside and carry around our whole lives. Then one day we can no longer carry the weight of it..... and it breaks, we break with no understanding of why?! We certainly don't want to or are unable to tell anyone that we think we may be broken.
We find ourselves alone, with no concept or tools on how to sort through the madness, we are completely lost in our losses. How do we cope with that kind of intense pain; drug addition? self-harm? unprotected sex? angry outbursts? avoidance? violence? alcoholism? self sabotage? risky behaviors?
I was told about the Grief Recovery Method from a dear friend that I hadn't seen for 15+ years. My heart called me to drop everything to go be by her side as she tried to process the loss of her only son. Overwhelmed with sadness and true heartbreak for her and her family, I had no idea of what I could say or do to help ease their pain? How could I possibly even touch any sort of understanding or begin to comfort her in this unimaginable loss??!! There was no way to even comprehend what kind of pain my beautiful friend must be going through!!

It was this friend that shared with me the Grief Recovery Method. She shared how it had really changed her whole perspective and how she was able to free herself from the incompleteness of unresolved grief and loss.
We all experience deep grief and loss, it is a commonality we will always share as humans. There should be no judgement, no comparison, no criticizing, no fixing. We need to understand that although we are all unique in our pain, no one's loss is better, worse, greater, more or less because we all FEEL, we all HURT, we all LOVE , we all GRIEVE at several different intensities.
The Grief Recovery Method impacted me so intensely I felt I needed to share this discovery into recovery with as many humans I could. It was terrifying trying to navigate at first, so scary to dig deep into these losses but it is the only way to completeness!! As, so many of us suffer the same hurts ..... alone ..... in silence with no understanding or direction of where to even start to heal or if it is even possible.
I have always felt a calling for this work and this is something that can really make positive life changing results because EVERYONE on this planet grieves. It was my mission to be a Grief Recovery Method Specialist! So here I am, feeling so honored and excited to share with you, grow with you, help guide you on your journey from discovery into recovery! To walk beside you so you know that although we are all unique in our pain, we are not alone in it.