The holidays are approaching, and just like most families, you’re probably looking forward to Thanksgiving, Christmas and the New Year.

For me, my son was born on Thanksgiving, and that was a double special event. 

Since his death, most people have never wanted to bring up half of what that holiday is about. The truth is, every time Thanksgiving comes around, I'm super excited about it—at least now I am. 

For years, it was a profound source of pain. Still, it's disheartening when even my own family doesn't want to acknowledge our loss. While I'm excited about my holiday plans, I'm very aware that there's an empty seat at the table. However, because of this method and doing the work around my son's death, I still take it as an opportunity to celebrate what I'm grateful for. 

My son taught me more about life and death than I would have ever taught him as a dad, so I approach the Thanksgiving holiday with love. Now, I can look at his life as a gift. He showed me true grace and what being thankful really means. 

If your holiday season reminds you of a lost loved one, honor your feelings and remember the lessons that relationship taught you. 

If you are a friend of someone who experienced a tremendous loss, be sure to ask them about the empty seat at the table. It means more than you know.