A Mother's Loss: A Child's Loss
I have lived the toll of unresolved grief.
My mother had two young sons. They were killed, in front of her eyes, in a freak accident. The accident involved hand grenades....
My mother's heart was torn apart times two.The advice she was given was to have another child immediately. She did not want another child. She wanted her boys back, whole and in her arms.
"Have another child" translates to what we in Grief Recovery® call, a MYTH: Replace the loss...and everything will be fine.
Well, everything was not fine. Hard as I tried, I could not replace my brothers. Because my mother had no idea how to work through her grief and pain, she was unable to attach to me.Though she did not deliberately withhold her love, she just did not have it to give. Her unresolved painful grief kept her away from me. Hence, I lived the toll of her unresloved grief.
My mother did not have access to any type of grief support. People are always told they will never recover from the loss of a child. She did not think it was possible to heal her broken heart and find peace.
I, however, know it is possible to heal and find peace.While I was not able to help my mother, I have helped myself and many others since 2000. I do this work in remembrance of her.
Please allow me to help YOU make peace with the past, become present in the present, and begin to make plans for the future.
I look forward to being there with you and for you as you do the work of Grief Recovery®.
Most sincerely, Ethel-Anne