Grief is a fact of life. While there many articles and books that have been published on the subject of grief, very little is available on how to deal with it in the workplace. This is unfortunate because grief can dramatically impact the work environment.
Doing things online has become a way of life for most people today who use Internet connectivity. People shop online for almost everything. When someone has a medical question, they often check their symptoms online before consulting their doctor. Whatever you need, there is some company, organization or individual that is probably offering it online.
The majority of grievers are desperately in need of support to help them in coping with their losses. They need someone to listen to them without analysis, criticism or judgment. Fear of how to approach grievers and assist them stops many well-meaning people from being there for these people when they are most needed.
Four years ago, Russell Friedman wrote an article discussing the more than 40 events that can trigger grief in our lives. While this was an excellent overview, much more needs to be said about this subject.
A lot of people want to help grievers. There are more than 40,000 listings under the heading of “grief books” on Amazon.com. The unfortunate thing is that the majority of these books tell the stories of one individual’s struggles with grief or are books that offer logical solutions to a problem that is certainly not logical. Grief is an emotional experience. Emotions are not logical.
No matter how extensive your education and training is in dealing with grievers, you will frequently be asked questions that you have never been asked before. This is very understandable! Each loss and relationship is unique. While there may be similarities between some losses, they are never the same, thus each situation must be approached from a different perspective.
For many years most people thought the word grief only related to death. Many people may still think that, but with the advent and growth of grief counseling, more and more people have come to realize that divorce is also a grieving event.
Let’s start with a question: Do you drive to work the same way every day? You may think that this has nothing to do with how you deal with significant emotional loss and grief recovery, but there is actually a direct relationship. Most of us take the same route every day. We do so without even thinking, because it’s our habit. We do many of the same activities each day by habit alone.
A great deal has been written about dealing with the emotional pain that comes with the end of a loving relationship. Unfortunately, not all relationships are loving. Most of us cross paths with people who, in one way or another, impact us in very negative ways. For some, it is a relative who abused them either mentally or physically.